This concept of “shoulding yourself,” coined by psychologist Clayton Barbeau, speaks to the distorted thinking and guilt-ridden pressures that many of us put ourselves through when the going gets tough. By “shoulding” ourselves into feeling or being a certain way, we block our ability to effectively process our grief, give ourselves what we truly need, and build resilience for the future.
Read MoreWhat we truly need are cultures that center these conversations, so everyone can safely and courageously ask for what they need–regardless of title or placement on the org chart. That shift starts with having well-placed people on the inside who can courageously speak up for what is needed--this includes you. We have to be the change we want to see, not just in the world but in our own organizations.
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